Resources for couples
Recommended resources & tools for couples or those working on relationship goals:
The tools I recommend for couples are often similar, so I wanted a place I could highlight these resources for you. Please keep in mind not all couples will need or use all of these tools. A couple looking for pre-marital information is not going to use the same resources as a couple navigating boundaries with parents or contemplating having a baby. This is even more true if there is a true hurdle the couple is facing.
Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find and Keep Love
Peter Levine M.D. & Rachel S. F. Heller, M.A.
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While this isn't my favorite book if you are going through a break-up or beginning to date this is a good resource. I might also recommend this to a premarital couple.
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Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Other and Start Caring for Yourself
Melody Beattie
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This is an older book, and it shows. Still it is a great primer for codependency and beginning to set boundaries.
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The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work
John M. Gottman, PH.D, & Nan Silver
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John and Julie Gottman are the foremost experts and researchers on relationships of our day. While their research is not perfect and has limitations I would recommend this book if you are considering dating, dating someone, engaged, or married. It handles basics of relationships, and with tweaks can even be applied in families. ​​
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Gottman Card Decks App
The Gottman Institute
Available Apple and Google Play
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This app for your phone takes some of the principles from the above book and helps you use them in the every day.
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Fair Play (book) and The Fair Play Deck
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Eve Rodsky
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A book to help reorganize and quantify tasks in a household. This is an incredible resource for anyone contemplating moving in together, having fights about labor splits in the home, or thinking about adding a baby.
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The Dance of Anger​
Harriet Lerner, Ph.D
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Another older book that has applications beyond couples. This resource is a good book for those who are finding themselves in the same old family argument or couples argument they can't seem to shake.
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