Resources for teens and adults
Recommended resources & tools for couples or those working on relationship goals:
The tools I recommend for couples are often similar, so I wanted a place I could highlight these resources for you. Please keep in mind not all couples will need or use all of these tools. A couple looking for pre-marital information is not going to use the same resources as a couple navigating boundaries with parents or contemplating having a baby. This is even more true if there is a true hurdle the couple is facing.
Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find and Keep Love
Peter Levine M.D. & Rachel S. F. Heller, M.A.
While this isn't my favorite book if you are going through a break-up or beginning to date this is a good resource. I might also recommend this to a premarital couple.
Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Other and Start Caring for Yourself
Melody Beattie
This is an older book, and it shows. Still it is a great primer for codependency and beginning to set boundaries.
The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work
John M. Gottman, PH.D, & Nan Silver
John and Julie Gottman are the foremost experts and researchers on relationships of our day. While their research is not perfect and has limitations I would recommend this book if you are considering dating, dating someone, engaged, or married. It handles basics of relationships, and with tweaks can even be applied in families.
Gottman Card Decks App
The Gottman Institute
Available Apple and Google Play
This app for your phone takes some of the principles from the above book and helps you use them in the every day.
Fair Play (book) and The Fair Play Deck
Eve Rodsky
A book to help reorganize and quantify tasks in a household. This is an incredible resource for anyone contemplating moving in together, having fights about labor splits in the home, or thinking about adding a baby.
The Dance of Anger
Harriet Lerner, Ph.D
Another older book that has applications beyond couples. This resource is a good book for those who are finding themselves in the same old family argument or couples argument they can't seem to shake.